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Famous at Home with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub

Does “I’m Busy” Describe Your Life? Here’s One Question That Can Change That

September 18, 2014 By Joshua Straub 15 Comments

A friend of mine brought up an insightful thought the other day about the modern day greeting in America. In years past when somebody asked how you were doing, the most common response was, “I’m good.” More grammatically correct folks would say, “I’m well.”

Today, the most common reply is, “I’m busy.”

The latter statement couldn’t be truer of Christi and me the last few years. Particularly when we were in the trenches with a newborn and a two-year-old demanding our attention. With fuller days and less sleep, we tried to make the most of the middle of the night stillness, sitting awake rocking our newborn daughter.

This may sound strange, but there’s a part of me that enjoyed the stillness of 2:30AM–just God and me.

I remember one night sitting alone on the glider, rocking our daughter back to sleep. In prayer, I apologized to God for not noticing him during the busy parts of my day. I asked him to show me ways of feeling less busy.

He then brought to mind a conversation I had earlier that day with my good friend, Eric—who described to me the most challenging question he was ever asked.

“Would you recognize if God stopped speaking to you?”

Thinking about this question actually made me thankful to God for keeping me awake in the stillness of 2:30AM. Most other nights, I’d be moaning and groaning. But on this night, I was grateful for his presence.

That’s when a passage came to mind I want to leave you with, especially if your immediate response to a greeting includes the word “busy.”

In the passage, Elijah was alone in a cave in the middle of the night when a word of the Lord shows up and asks him, “What are you doing here, Elijah?”

He replied, “I have been very zealous for the Lord God…”

Look at what Elijah is then commanded to do: “Go out and stand on the mountain in the Lord’s presence.”

God challenged me at 2:30AM to consider how well I hear him in my busyness—no matter if I have a newborn and a toddler, business meetings, deadlines, social media, conferences, school plays, homework, lunches to makes, children to feed, groceries to get, people to follow up with, an oil change, and the list goes on.

He kept me awake in the middle of the night to ask, “In the noisiness of life, will you still hear me?”

Elijah heard God. But not as we expect…

“A great and mighty wind was tearing at the mountains and was shattering cliffs before the Lord, but the Lord was not in the wind…

After the wind there was an earthquake, but the Lord was not in the earthquake…

After the earthquake there was a fire, but the Lord was not in the fire…

And after the fire there was a voice, a soft whisper. When Elijah heard it, he wrapped his face in his mantle and went out and stood at the entrance of the cave. [i] 

Life is noisy. Do you recognize the Lord’s soft whisper?


[i] 1 Kings 19:9-13, CSB

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  1. eskimo_ann@yahoo.com says

    January 30, 2015 at

    Beautifully said and heard

    Reply
  2. Janet says

    August 27, 2017 at

    That was wonderful and can I share with me friends.

    Reply
    • Janet says

      August 27, 2017 at

      Please change me to my. Thanks

      Reply
    • Joshua Straub says

      August 27, 2017 at

      Absolutely you can share it. I’m glad it resonated with you.

      Reply
  3. Leslie Lynn Gore says

    August 27, 2017 at

    I love this,I do not have children,but life gets busy just doing everyday things and end of the day all you can say is bed,and prayer is a simple thank you God for this day.
    Well for the past 3 years I or it is God waking me up at 3:00 morning and in the quiet he leads me where to read and what he expects of me to do next day,and the events happen wow.Now I know 3:00 is God and me special time,but he is always there with softness even through busy and I love that.

    Leslie Lynn Gore

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    • Joshua Straub says

      August 27, 2017 at

      Leslie, this is so cool. These moments with God, though initially annoying when woken up in the middle of the night, are often the sweetest moments and always leave me craving for more time with Him. Thanks for sharing about your relationship with Him!

      Reply
    • Reyna says

      September 2, 2017 at

      Thank you for sharing Leslie. That’s God and He is beautiful. God Bless.

      Reply
  4. Karen says

    August 27, 2017 at

    Yes I do.

    Reply
  5. Lorraine Birch says

    August 28, 2017 at

    What a blessing to read these passages today! While it feels wonderful, God is not in the wind. Perfect distractions. But that is all they are. Gives us a chance to see things in God’s eyes. Like the hurricane in Texas. Maybe, every so often God allows this to happen so we have extraordinary opportunities to help our neighbors. And to see Him in the midst of it all.?

    Reply
  6. Karen Battles says

    August 28, 2017 at

    This was something I needed to hear.

    Reply
  7. MELISSA Rogers Fletcher says

    August 28, 2017 at

    The question:Would you recognize if God stop speaking to you? My answer is, ‘YES.’ There was a time when I felt that way, but then He brought to my remembrance that He was still there speaking to me but I was just too busy to hear His still quiet voice. So now I try spend time talking and listening to Him every morning. He doesn’t stop speaking to us, we just stop listening!

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  8. Judy Davenport says

    August 29, 2017 at

    Looking back to times in my own life when I’d get up with our wee ones, I felt that same way, Josh. I cherished those moments with them and with God. I felt surrounded at those times with His peace and joy. I thanked Him for loaning those little ones to me for a season. Praise God for meeting us in the stillness and loving us even when we’re not there to meet Him. I’ll be listening for His still small voice this day. Thank you so much for sharing.

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    • Joshua Straub says

      August 29, 2017 at

      Thanks for sharing, Judy. Those were precious moments for sure.

      Reply
  9. Brenda says

    August 29, 2017 at

    Thank you for reminding me that when I am woken out of sleep at 3am, to listen for the voice of God and not to rush to go back to sleep.

    Reply
  10. Olga says

    August 29, 2017 at

    Lord, please speak for your servant is listening…

    Olga

    Reply

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