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Famous at Home with Dr. Josh + Christi Straub

#10: 8 Ways We Shoot Ourselves in the Foot When We Discipline Our Kids

March 29, 2017 By Joshua Straub 6 Comments

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Mister Rogers said it best, “I think of discipline as the continual everyday process of helping a child learn self-discipline.”

But let’s be honest, the “everyday process” can feel awfully long. Our kids scream in ways that could peel paint off a wall—that’s assuming they haven’t already used markers to turn the wall into an art gallery.

They also bicker and fight, get snippy, don’t eat when we want them to, fall asleep when we don’t want them to, and know how to get us so frazzled we give in to behaviors we never thought we would when we didn’t have kids. Can we be honest? We were all perfect parents, until we had kids.

In this episode, we flip the conversation. Instead of talking about our children’s behavior, we talk about ours. We reveal the top three parenting strategies, according to research, that lead to the outcomes we desire in our kids. In turn, we discuss not only the ways we shoot ourselves in the foot, but how we can get it right.

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Comments

  1. Billy says

    March 30, 2017 at

    Do you have transcript copies of your podcasts? I don’t do podcasting and I can’t due to my work environment (military). I read a lot though…is there a place I can print copies of this and other podcast?

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    • Joshua Straub says

      March 30, 2017 at

      Billy, thanks for your question. It’s a really good one. At this point, we do not have the transcripts. However, I am going to check into it. It makes sense to have it. In the meantime, the conversation centered around this blog: http://www.joshuastraub.com/2016/10/03/8-mistakes-make-discipline-children/

      I’ll check into it. In the meantime, please know of our gratitude for your service.
      Josh

      Reply
  2. Tina says

    August 18, 2017 at

    Can you share links to the research you refer to in this podcast?

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    • Joshua Straub says

      August 18, 2017 at

      Hey Tina! Great question!

      All of the research I cite is also cited in Safe House: How Emotional Safety is the Key to Raising Kids Who Live, Love, and Lead Well. The bibliography section of the book would be the best place to find all of the original research studies I discuss. The one research study on the effects of permissive parenting comes from seminal research by Diana Baumrind in “Rearing Competent Children.” In William Damon ed., Child Development Today and Tomorrow. San Francisco: Jossey-Bass, 1989. Here is a link that summarizes some of her findings:
      http://social.jrank.org/pages/352/Laissez-Faire-Parents.html

      Here is a link to the Safe House book: http://www.lifeway.com/Product/safe-house-P005768978

      Please let me know if you have any other questions.

      Reply
      • Brenda says

        September 11, 2017 at

        Hi Tina –

        I have Safe House, and find it to be a WONDERFUL book! I was also looking for the research you requested that was cited in this podcast, specifically the “10 Best Parenting Strategies for getting the outcomes we’re wanting for our children” mentioned at the beginning, and throughout the podcast, and did a web search and came up with this!

        https://www.evergreenpsychotherapycenter.com/the-10-best-parenting-strategies/

        Hope this helps!

        Reply
        • Joshua Straub says

          September 11, 2017 at

          Thanks, Brenda! That is exactly the study I reference. Appreciate your kind words!

          Reply

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