#112: Your Questions: Marriage, EQ, Your Kids, and the Enneagram

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In this episode, we once again discuss your questions. In particular, this week’s discussion points include:

Marriage books to read for non-Christians
Ways to get your spouse to increase more time together and get in sync
Next steps for rebuilding your marriage after it fell apart
How to help our kids navigate adults who lack emotional intelligence / awareness
Whether your child’s enneagram type influences how we discipline and disciple them

The Questions:

From Emily: I really like your podcast and have been feeling this urge to put my husband and I more in sync. He thinks we are great and perfect and that you shouldn’t mess with something that’s not broken. And we are really great most of the time, but I want more. I want us to be “in this together” more. He is fine with watching TV together at night and calling that quality time, however, we don’t say any words to each other. I told him that for my birthday, which is at the end of this month, I want his time. I want to read a book together or something and grow our marriage. I think he would rather spend a $1000 on me than read/discuss a book! lol! A little background: he is not spiritual at all, and I don’t know if I am a believer these days either. We both grew up Christian. He is very scientific and logical and seems to disprove a lot of the Bible. And when he talks, it makes sense. So y’all talked about Fierce Marriage on your podcast and I thought about reading this together, but I CAN NOT push religion on him or he will check out. I am on the fence about Jesus, but he isn’t. So my question is, what book do you suggest we read together to strengthen our marriage and make it even better without pushing religion on my husband too much? Thank y’all! And thank you for being so REAL about marriage and life!
From Brooke: My husband and I are struggling with how to parent our kids through interactions with adults who lack emotional intelligence/awareness. Would you guys talk about that? We do feelings in our home, and we expect emotional honesty. However, grandparents and teachers don’t always deal with things the same way. How do we teach our kids to honor emotion and respect authority?
When trying to rebuild your marriage, how do you heal past hurts and move forward when you each speak a different love language and one seems to take the other for granted, but we didn’t know until it fell apart?
Could you discuss how knowing your child’s enneagram type can help guide the approach used in discipling your child?

Show Notes:

To learn more about or to purchase The 5 Love Languages, by Gary Chapman, click here.

Marriage books not from Christian perspective:

To learn more about or to purchase Feeling Good Together, by David Burns, click here.

To learn more about or to purchase The 7 Principles to Making Marriage Work, by John Gottman, click here.

Marriage books from Christian perspective:

To learn more about or to purchase Fierce Marriage by Ryan and Selena Fredrick, click here.

To learn more about marriage coaching, click here.